"You're Too Quiet for a Typical Black Girl." —And Other Lies Impostor Syndrome Told Me
What is the lie—or lies— your impostor syndrome tells you?
“Nobody likes you”
“Your skin is too dark”
“You are not Haitian nor African and obviously not white…what are you?“
“You don’t belong anywhere“
“Lock yourself inside and never come out”
“If you missing no one would notice”
“Your voice is too soft why can’t you speak louder “
“ You are too quiet for a typical black girl”
All these things are things I’ve heard for many years. So they become this second voice in my head.
Introduce yourself: Who are you?
My name is Sherly, a Christian and a fashion design student. I’m a blogger. I blog about my life and encourage others to be all that God has called them to be.
Share the journey: How did you get here?
I was “awkward,” people would say, growing up. I was that child who would rather spend time in her books rather than with friends. I didn’t have that many friends anyway. It’s so fascinating to me how the world tells you to follow your dreams, but then it has a hard time accepting it when it’s not the typical dream. I had a hard time telling people that I wanted to study fashion design because of the what I’ve been told in the past, but choosing to pursue my dream was the best decision I’ve ever made.
Face your reflection: Is there a disconnect between your inner self and your outer self?
I feel like I’m at that age where I’m still learning about my outer self. I truly believe that my inner self is the one that keeps my outer self steady. Believe me it’s weird!
What do you do to remind yourself that you are enough?
I constantly have to renew my mind with the word of God. As a Worship leader I will just spend time listening to music and singing. I constantly read book that remind me of who I am. I am who God says I am.
Scenario: You walk into a room of your "peers"—describe who they are....do these people encourage you, intimidate you or both?
They all encourage me. Some are intimidated but encourage me anyway. That’s how you know the ones that are the real ones
Who is in your "hall of fame"? How does this person(s) influence how you view yourself and your potential?
My mom. This woman have a courage I’ve never seen. Her kindness is her strength. She taught me patient is required in order to be successful. You don’t just wake up and be successful it takes a lot of hard work and patient. There is no such thing as “I can’t “ if I thought of it I can achieve it. No dream were meant to just think about.
How would you encourage someone who is afraid of their potential?
You were meant to soar! Fear is not real. It’s a lie. Your dreams are real. Your potential is real. You will never know the outcome of something until you try it.
Hello, Rose here—
I hope you’ve been encouraged by Sherly’s story. You can follow Sherly on Instagram. She is a powerful encourager and an awesome friend!
What is your impostor syndrome telling YOU?
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