"No One Sees You Because You Are Invisible"—And Other Lies Impostor Syndrome Told Me
What is the lie—or lies— that your impostor syndrome tells you?
The biggest lie impostor syndrome told me & sometimes still tells me :
“What you’re doing doesn’t matter.
You can’t make an impact.
No one sees you because you are invisible”
Introduce yourself: Who are you?
Takeesha aka Taki Jayy Professional MUA (make-up artist), Child of God, and a Decent human being lol
Share the journey: How did you get here?
What sparked an interest In doing what i love to do was something tragic that happened to me and my family. Having to face financial struggles and be around substance abuse, all while trying to finish my senior year of high school is what brought me to my breaking point. I was scared and embarrassed and the only thing I can do to take my mind off things was beauty.
Face your reflection: Is there a disconnect between your inner self and your outer self?
A slight disconnect but only when I feel I can be better or compare myself to thing and people I shouldn’t compare myself to.
What do you do to remind yourself that you are enough?
Listen to motivational podcasts, pray, and self-reflect very often.
Scenario: You walk into a room of your "peers"—describe who they are....do these people encourage you, intimidate you or both?
My peers are doing all they can to be the best versions of themselves. They are insightful, open-minded, intentional, spiritual, grounded in their faith and doing well. They encourage me when I let them know that I am not okay, intimidating not exactly however, when one accomplishes something I feel a sense of happiness while also feeling worried about my own accomplishments in hopes we can all be equally calibrated and on the same level in that sense. I know that’s how how life works and we will always be on different wave lengths, so that’s just something I need to remember.
Who is in your "hall of fame"? How does this person(s) influence how you view yourself and your potential?
Honestly God. I feel He is the only legitimate being/power who can keep me from harm and teach me valuable lessons in my life just by knowing who to keep around, who to have at arms reach, who to stay away from, what opportunities are for me by creating them and what things aren’t for me in the form of rejection. Either way these are how i learn my lessons.
How would you encourage someone who is afraid of their potential?
I’d encourage them to just START. It doesn’t have to be perfect, just get it done.
If you haven't already, explain the work you do and why.
I am a professional makeup artist located and caters to the south shore and Boston area. I do this because i always promised myself in whatever I choose to do with my life, it’d have to have something to do with helping others. I love to make people feel beautiful inside & out. This is why I do what I do. It’s not really about me but more so the experience.
Hello, Rose here—
I am LOVING these responses! The vulnerability, the heart, the depth…the inspiration from one post can carry me for months. Imagine what a month’s worth of stories could do….
I hope you enjoyed hearing from Takeesha, who enhances the natural beauty others possess. You can follow her on Instagram. She’s always sharing her latest product reviews, make-up tips and serving us looks.
Whether or not you’re a make-up artist, we all have the same potential to help others see themselves and to bring out the best in each other.
That’s what this series is all about. If you’re a black woman dealing with impostor syndrome, I hope you’re considering sharing your story this month!